Nothing to Prove, Nothing to Lose – Quotable Living

IMG_4825“When you have nothing to prove, you have nothing to lose.” Anonymous

I’ve been given that quote many times in my life. Right now, it forms a strong foundation in me. Now it is truth, but not always. Getting to this place involved a lot of stripping away of non-essentials that I actually believed formed the essence of Debra. Now I know Debra, all the quirks and imperfections and there is nothing to prove about my person, my substance for I am in Christ, in union with Him. There is nothing to lose anymore and that is freedom. Here is my life in one verse.

Colossians 1:27 –  “Christ in me, the hope of glory.”

I am in union with Christ. The me in Him is flowing each day in creativity and beauty. My life flows in action through the person of Christ in me. I don’t lose myself in excessive qualifications and justifications of who Debra is or is not anymore. Life is way too short for that. I found myself in Him, in His life and now I have nothing to prove in the midst of my life.

But, for years before this, there was a battle raging within me. In fighting to be accepted, I usually found myself out of the mix of the action. I did not like that at all. There was an inner emptiness in me formed from feeling alone and insecure that rejected this person called Debra. So I fought my life from a defensive position of trying to fit in or form myself to be accepted. Truth – I never was. I really never was. This only set up a circular motion of trying harder to prove my being to only be rejected again and to start the process all over again. I worked so hard at it that I lost myself in fear and shame. And, this happened as a Christian. And, this happened even when I walked in ministry. That just goes to show you, God anoints us despite our blatant imperfections.

For years, I walked into a room feeling so uncomfortable. I did not know how to have relationships. I did not know how to actually love people unconditionally. I lived behind a mask of fear – fear of being told that somehow, in some way, I was not right. Not in my actions, but in my being. That inner voice that consistently said that I was not right – my life, my looks, my voice, my thoughts, my beliefs. The funny thing about all of this is that most people think I am an extrovert because I can be outgoing when I need to be outgoing. In actuality, I went through all the motions at times because I was trying to find the Debra that I believed I actually was, and I was wrong. In finding Christ, I am finding me, the me He created me to be.

IMG_4726If you only knew some of my struggles, you would laugh. I do. Who is Debra? Ask that question to yourself. Who are you? Don’t try to prove anything. Be honest and forthright. I will start and then you write something out for yourself being totally honest. This is not self-indulgent okay. After all, it’s my blog and I hope this is helping you to be honest with yourself.

Debra is:



Passionate, yet can sometimes get quite angry and let out a few cuss words at times


Creative and spontaneous

Thrives on change and travel

A wife who loves her husband

A good but imperfect mom

Too loud

Too moody

People actually can tire me out if I am with them too much

I love solitude and times to be alone to read

I get bored so easy that I then get frustrated

I hate to cook

I love to read

I love reality shows

I despise condescension in any form coming from people

I love the underdogs because I am one

I absolutely love music of every type and every genre

Dogs are easier to be with then people at times and that is why I love Chloe, my French bulldog

I love to sit at dinner and really talk with my good friends over a great bottle of wine

I can’t live inland for the ocean makes me come alive

I love my friends because they really know me, really know me

I am a city girl married to a small town Texas man for 38 years and I believe it can’t get any better than that

I like confrontation and a good argument

I could go on forever but I will end here with a smile. Nothing to prove, nothing to lose. Oh yeah, one more thing…I love Starbucks, French fries and pizza.


10 thoughts on “Nothing to Prove, Nothing to Lose – Quotable Living

  1. Wow.. This is great… You did omit one characteristic….. You love to eat your husbands cooking….. Right???? If you speak the truth, live the truth, and be the truth then there is nothing to prove thus nothing to loose… Amen

  2. Wow, Debra! Love it!! This encourages me to throw away my masks of fear and to start to be the real me – with all my imperfections – because after all – I have it all in Christ! Thank you! This was really great!!

    • Thanks Tarja. I love ya and we all are surely on a new path. I know you felt it when we talked on Tuesday. I am not sure about it all but prayer is leading me out to see it one step at a time.

  3. Debra,

    Again you amaze me with the things you write. simply because I feel like we are so incredibly similar. My husband and joke around that the world could not handle another one of me, and yet, here you are! Go figure! LOL

    I have written a lot of similarities in my new book, Healing the Heart of a Woman. Have you thought about writing a book? It had always been my childhood dream, but for many years as I went through years “on the shelf” waiting, and becoming depressed over it, I lost sight of that goal. One day a stranger on FB told me I needed to take my blog page to a new level. I laughed. She was persistent. I hemmed and hawed. She finally made me promise to pray about whether or not I should write a book. I sighed, but said, OK. Well, that was April and my book was finished September 9th. God was absolutely in it! So…dear one, I will give you the same nudge. Why don’t you ask the Lord if He wants you to write a book? 🙂

    Because here’s the deal. Each of us have lived someone else’s story. And there are others out there that have lived what you have lived but they are not yet healed or restored. They need our stories and testimonies of how God healed us so that they too can get back up on their feet and rise up into women of faith that feel empowered to take their promises back. Far too many people try to do that from a place of spiritual weakness, still having unhealed wounds and offenses, rather than from a place of strength and wholeness. You’ve got something here that is healthy, healing and life giving. Keep writing. 🙂

    • Thanks Laura. It will be great to meet you one day. I am currently in a writer’s guild that I joined for 3 months, with assignments every 2 weeks. I did that in addition to writing consistently in the blog as well as a book I am starting. It is all happening quite fast so I am just flowing with it all. God gave me several books – one called Curtain Call which I have had in my heart for 10 years. I received it through a supernatural vision from the Lord. I only now feel ready to write it.
      I did not want to be a writer and I fought it for a long time. I respect people that write and I thought blogging is easier, which it is, but God thinks otherwise so I am simply obeying and forging ahead. Thanks for your encouragement.
      Can you share, in the future with me, the process you went through of actually publishing etc? Love ya

  4. “When you have nothing to prove you have nothing to lose” – interesting quote. I’ve jotted this down to really ponder of the next few days. Thanks for sharing the “Who is Debra” list. I’m motivated to create my own!


  5. What a POWERFUL and AWESOME testimony! Your post has given me a lot of food for thought. One of my greatest takeaways is the quote that you shared, “There is nothing to lose anymore and that is freedom.” I love it!!!

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