Trapped in Time by People’s Judgments and Opinions? Forgive – Move On

Forgive 2 Have you ever felt that no matter what you did, you could not break free from what people thought of you – their judgments and opinions? When that happens, I realized a long time ago that it is because people entrap you into a place in time, a moment where something happened between you and them. There is pain in that moment in time for whatever reason – failure, betrayal, anger and more. I may have been a part of it. I may have even caused it. But, as I repent, ask forgiveness and forgive, I am free to move forward. Yet, that does not mean others will. Therein lies the problem.

For years, I kept a close watch on my heart – keeping anger and unforgiveness at bay because I knew I was so easily prone to it in my life due to past hurts and wounds. With God’s grace, I forgave over and over knowing that it freed me up inside. No matter what happens, I chose to forgive and to always ask forgiveness, even if it is through clenched teeth or some measure of initial resistance. I choose to forgive. I start somewhere and eventually God syncs my heart with the reality of my words.

This way of forgiveness formed in my life when my sister was murdered in 1982. I knew that if I did not forgive, this pain and trauma would incapacitate me emotionally, physically and spiritually throughout my life. I would be imprisoned to that moment of time if I did not allow forgiveness to set me free.

Forgive 1When I heard of my sister’s murder, I had to walk through the practicalities of life – helping my parents deal with it, going through paperwork, and talking to the police. Months later, when the initial shock wore off, I had to deal with me. For over a year, I walked in a cloud unable to truly face it and look at it head on. Things like this just didn’t happen to us. My life was imprisoned to a moment in time and I was trapped.

One day Holy Spirit overwhelmed me with emotion in a time of worship and simply said, “Forgive the person who did this.”

I said, “I don’t know how.”

Holy Spirit said, “Choose to forgive.”

I said, “I forgive.”

I remember, at that moment, just crumpling to the floor, weeping and weeping for hours. When I got up I was free. To this day, I still grieve the loss of my sister; a dear friend but there is no anger or bitterness toward the person who did this to our family. Forgiveness is real and true and releases you from moments of time that are traumatic in your life. There is power in forgiveness.

Now getting back to my point above. People who don’t or won’t deal with their own anger, unforgiveness, bitterness and pain are stuck in time. When people unjustly attack me, I can ask forgiveness, truly repent and then, I am free. I am not trapped in that moment of pain, even if I was some part of it through anger, betrayal or for whatever reason. I am free in Christ. I don’t want to go back to that point but frequently, others do. And they never cease to remind me about that. They often accuse me, overtly or subliminally, wanting more on my part – more groveling, more proof of changed behavior, more of something. I can’t go there and in deciding that, they don’t like it, which only revs up their engines to accuse and attack more. They want to lock me up in the past and keep me there.

Don’t let anyone pull you back in time to a place where you are not at any more. It’s a place where guilt and discouragement can cast a snare and try to trap you in that moment again. You don’t live there anymore. You are free.

Now, don’t think for one second that because you understand this, others will also. People are people and each of us is responsible for our own lives. Each of us stands before the Lord for our own actions. We can only do what we can do. So to this day, I still encounter people who won’t let me be me. They want to write a script of their own understanding in which I am the star player who negatively impacted their life in some way. Ever feel like that? Look around, it’s happening on social media all the time. Attacks, accusations and more – all because people won’t forgive and move on. Keeping it in the forefront adds a lot of drama and they get a lot of attention for the most part.

Forgive Cross 3Once you have done all you can, stand in the freedom and forgiveness that is yours in Christ. Don’t allow your future to be taken captive to moments in time past. You stand in the now and that is a glorious place to stand. The now moves you forward and by God’s grace there is always a new day, a fresh start, a new life…that’s how good God is. Again, there is so much to say about this. Get your journal and spend some time with God and He will reveal His heart to you personally in your own situation. He is faithful to do that.

Moving on in Christ.

Debra 2In Christ,

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Hidden In Plain Sight (1)

Green DoorHidden in plain sight. Seems to contradict itself.  How can something be hidden, yet in plain sight? How is that possible?

Well, it happens all around us, every day. Planets were discovered that had been there all along but were actually hidden in plain sight? Voila – one day they were just seen. Been there all along, unseen – then, there they are, found by people whose eyes were opened to SEE at the right time.

How about when you are looking for something, can’t find it, keep looking, don’t find it and get frustrated? Then suddenly, perhaps a few minutes or hours later, it shows up, having been there all along. Where did it go? Or had it been there all along but was hidden because of our inability to actually see what we were looking for?

So, what about Jesus since He is my reality – my way, truth and life.

Jesus came to His own and His own knew Him not. He was hidden in plain sight, until the right time. Then He was seen by those whose eyes were opened.

John 1:9-12 That was the true Light which gives light to every man coming into the world.10 He was in the world, and the world was made through Him, and the world did not know Him. 11 He came to His own, and His own did not receive Him. 12 But as many as received Him, to them He gave the right to become children of God

Jesus moved in time, sensitive to the Father’s voice and heaven’s directive, He was in the world but the world, for a time, did not see Him. Along the way, walking in His destiny, some eyes opened to SEE but even in that moment, heaven originated the action.

Matthew 16:15-16 He said to them, “ But who do you say that I am?”16 Simon Peter answered and said, “ You are the Christ, the Son of the living God.

SpiralJesus walked in an acute sense of timing. Why? He was in time and totally obedient to the Father’s directive, submitted to His way and His destiny, never hurried or rushed. Time was on His side and even though hidden while in plain sight, He was not hidden from the Father in heaven. He knew that to walk in time contrary to the sound of heaven would not be wise for the Father’s purpose and plan for His life.

Jesus knew that to be revealed in time was very important. His life started with a divine placement in time:

Galatians 4:4-5 But when the fullness of the time had come, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, 5 to redeem those who were under the law, that we might receive the adoption as sons.

When His disciples tried to convince Him that there was no time like the present and to just go ahead and move out, He rebuked them:

John 7:2-9 Now the Jews ’ Feast of Tabernacles was at hand. 3 His brothers therefore said to Him, “ Depart from here and go into Judea, that Your disciples also may see the works that You are doing. 4 For no one does anything in secret while he himself seeks to be known openly. If You do these things, show Yourself to the world.” 5 For even His brothers did not believe in Him.6 Then Jesus said to them, “ My time has not yet come, but your time is always ready. 7 The world cannot hate you, but it hates Me because I testify of it that its works are evil. 8 You go up to this feast. I am not yet going up to this feast, for My time has not yet fully come.” 9 When He had said these things to them, He remained in Galilee.

When I started concentrating on the beauty of time in Christ, I realized that I, along with you, are placed in time for such a time as this. This revelation is beginning to overwhelm me so I best take it slow and follow Holy Spirit as it is revealed before my spiritual eyes.

Now about me. I have experienced a divine hiddenness over the past years, many years to be exact. I denied it, tried to force my way out of it, got discouraged when people ignored me or rejected me and even fell into depression when I discerned that in this hiddenness I was useless and without purpose. I took the reality of my life being hidden but in plain sight, very disconcerting and deeply disturbing, often feeling rejected and useless. No matter how much I tried, I could not make myself seen. I wish I knew then, what I know now. Things may have gone a bit smoother. But, great lessons are learned from great failures. So life goes on and I am much wiser for the experience.

My focus on this series of blogs: time, hiddenness, being revealed, being in time yet hearing the call of heaven, walking in sync with the sound of heaven, and more. I intend to learn along the way so hope you follow me and share some comments with me as I go forth.

Why focus on this now? Well, Holy Spirit whispered to me the other day:

“Time is not working against you. Time is on My Side. Follow Me.”

DebraIn Christ,

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